You do not need someone to complete you, but someone to fully accept you.
It is important to form healthy, successful relationships and enjoy all the positive elements they bring to our lives. Such relationships are governed by: trust, respect-understanding and boundaries.
♦ Trust Is based on 3 key pillars: honesty, values and positive focus.
- Trust begins in ourselves and our feelings. If we are honest with what we believe and feel, we can be honest with the rest of the people in our lives and not be afraid to share with them something unpleasant.
- Values refer to our personal moral code according to which we act. Many times, this code differs or it can even come as opposed to that of another person. In this case we should either reach to a compromise that will serve both sides well or decide what is more important to us; keeping eternal struggles in a relationship makes it unbalanced.
- Positive stance refers to the focus on the positive characteristics of the personality of the our partner and our relationship. Each of the two members of the relationship has their own distinct personality and that is what makes our relationship worthwhile. It does not benefit from constantly dealing with what we want to change in the other person and maintaining am electrified atmosphere.
♦ Respect and understanding are based on sharing and effective communication.
- Sharing problems and taking responsibility in a relationship is extremely important for its balance. In a difficult situation, it is important to consider the other person as our ally rather than an obstacle or something unrelated to our problem -regardless of whether this problem is related to the relationship or not.
- In communicating it is important to try to understand the emotional state of the other member of the relationship and “get in their shoes” for a few minutes (this is empathy). It is good to avoid accusations and talk about ourselves and our own responsibilities. We should avoid terms like «always» or «never».
♦ Boundaries are very important in a relationship, not to keep us distant from the other person, but to protect our individuality and frame a safe place for our relationship.
That is why we need to ask ourselves the following questions: How far can I go? What do I want? What do I need? Then we are ready to set our limits.