Regardless if the root of your jealousy is based on the stimuli you receive from your partner or from your own insecurities, try the steps below in order to feel better and improve your relationship.
Examine and accept jealous thoughts and emotions. The first steps towards solving an issue is acknowledgement, examination and acceptance.
You don’t have to act upon your jealous feeling. You may not be able to control experiencing jealous feeling yet, you are, however, able to control your reaction to them. Will you let them define your life and lead you to overreacting or will you acknowledge them for what they are and give them the space they deserve?
Evaluate jealousy as a feeling, examine where it derives from and accept it as you accept the rest of your feelings.
- Acknowledge that uncertainty is part of every relationship. No one in any short or long-term relationship, old or recent, can guarantee that your partner will 100% be with you forever and will never look at another person. That doesn’t mean that he will; It means that you can survive even if he does and that this secure feeling derives only from you.
- Examine your views regarding relationships. Extreme jealousy may lead us asking a lot from your partner such as not to talk to people of the opposite gender or not to go out alone. Such views are distorted and need to be reevaluated.
- Use alternative relationship skills. Instead of accusing your partner or making a scene due to jealousy, try to emphasize on positive aspects of his character and immediately improve the quality of your relationship.