Anger doesn’t solve anything, it builds nothing but it can destroy everything.
Undoubtedly, everyone has felt angry, since anger -along with joy, sadness, fear, surprise and disgust are the basic feelings.
Anger is an adaptive response to threats that is instinctively and naturally expressed through aggression. However, it is often incriminated as a negative emotion. This has led a great part of society to prevent the expression of anger. Not expressing our feelings is an unhealthy way of avoiding conflicts. In many cases, that anger gets “trapped” inside, “disguised” into other emotions or redirected to ourselves or others.
A typical dysfunctional management of anger is its internalization. We see people who prefer to overlook certain situations that make them angry and once they they’ve reached their breaking point, they outburst with a disproportionate reaction. The internalization of anger can also appear in the form of negative or judgmental behavior towards someone to whom we have not explained what has bothered us.
On the other hand, we observe people who externalize their anger in a dysfunctional way that may include intense or even violent outbursts, because of the difficulty of controlling and managing their feelings. It is understood that in order to manage our anger constructively, it is necessary to primarily recognize what makes us angry, the reason behind this feeling, to realize our needs and communicate them with respect to others.