“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” C. Jung
Find and utilize your strong suits – We all have strong personality traits that shield us in the face of adversity. To spot them, think about what personality traits helped you overcome past adversity.
Be kinder to yourself and build self-empathy – In many cases, we tend to be strict and judgmental with ourselves. But consider if that’s how you would talk to a friend. Replace your negative self-judgment with more empathetic thoughts. Talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you loved.
Practice mindfulness – It allows you to examine your thoughts, take a step back, and get some perspective instead of immediately falling into an emotional turmoil in adverse situations. Try to be present in the moment -not only physically but mentally as well; focus your attention in internal mental processes (thoughts, feelings, physical sensations) and accept the whole experience without being judgmental.
Ask for help – Even though gaining control is a key aspect in developing psychological resilience, that doesn’t mean that we must only rely on ourselves. We can communicate our needs to people we trust and accept their assistance.
Remember to be grateful and view each adversity as a challenge!